直播色情片

直播色情片鈥檚 came into my life about three years ago when I was living in Nottinghamshire. My wife, who was very active, supportive and positive throughout, came across the centre, and told me they had a Men鈥檚 Group.

I鈥檝e never been someone who鈥檚 afraid to talk and meet new people 鈥� so that鈥檚 exactly what I did.

I became an active member of the group. It was lovely being in the centre, we meet every two weeks and just speak about our lives.  

My cancer 

I鈥檇 been living with cancer for some time by that point. I was 58 when I started to notice problems with my bowel movements. A scan and an endoscopy later, I learned it was metastatic rectal cancer. At 59, I had an operation to remove a portion of my colon.  

After that surgery, I鈥檇 been having three years of monitoring, with check-ups and scans. At the end of the second year, I was told the cancer had moved to my lungs and grown nodules. There wasn鈥檛 anything the doctors could do 鈥� but they said they would monitor it. That鈥檚 when I knew I wouldn鈥檛 be able to ring the bell. 

In time we moved to Cardiff. I experienced problems with heart failure 鈥� at one point, I came very close to dying 鈥� and in 2018, my prostate decided to give up the game.

A new diagnosis

The new diagnosis was advanced prostate cancer, and came with news that the cancer had entered my bones.  

Worse still, the nodules in my lungs had grown, and I needed to have chemotherapy.  

I knew I was playing chess with cancer, moving the pieces around the court, and that my priority was to stay with the people I loved for as long as I could. My only fear was that I wouldn鈥檛 get to walk my youngest daughter down the aisle.  

At the start of lockdown, I had an appointment with my oncologist, where she told me they couldn鈥檛 do anything more for me. The nodules haven鈥檛 grown, but there are more of them 鈥� and I鈥檒l receive regular monitoring and check-ups.  

Men's Group

When I knew I was going to have more treatment, I walked into the doors at 直播色情片鈥檚 Cardiff.

I became an active member of the weekly men鈥檚 group. It was great -  they had guest speakers who, more often than not, had nothing to do with cancer. It led to general conversations about all sorts of things. And we also formed a fluid style where we could break off into smaller groups if we needed to, and discuss things one-on-one.  

We're a bunch of guys who like to have a laugh - we all have one thing in common that鈥檚 major to us, but we can just talk about anything, and laugh together.

Having that forum helps. There鈥檚 a lot of guys I like and want to talk to, even if it is virtually. I鈥檓 an active virtual member, but it鈥檚 so much better in person and in the beautiful centre. Sam knows this, but I鈥檓 chomping at the bit to get back in the centre.  

I finally know the meaning of butty, as well. It鈥檚 a Welsh term that means friend, or good friend. A group member said it to me the other day, "Talk to you later, butty" and I said 鈥淲hat on earth does that mean, is that what you put bacon on?鈥�. He explained and I laughed. Now we call each other our butties.  

Fundraising for 直播色情片's

We鈥檝e also got involved in fundraising too 鈥� we sold cakes in between the two lockdowns, in a gazebo on the road by the centre, and I鈥檝e raised money for 直播色情片鈥檚 by getting branded masks and baseball caps made. The caps in particular look really cool, and all proceeds will go to the centre. 

I鈥檓 at a point of acceptance now. Looking back, if I could change something, it would be that during the first two years of my cancer diagnosis I took more of an active role. I was too busy feeling sorry for myself.  

And now, I want to do lots of things. And all being well, I鈥檒l walk my youngest daughter down the aisle 鈥� that鈥檚 going to be this autumn. I can鈥檛 wait.

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Last review: Jun 2023 | Next review: Jan 2024